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Learned Helplessness

I have been doing research for a friend and I wanted to share what I have been learning. It s all social work related, but it can apply to anyone’s life, just apply it to any situation you can relate to…

 

Helplessness through Fear

Fear comes in many forms. The reaction of fear is the reaction that we see with a consequence or an outcome that is more times negative than positive. Sometimes fear is a precaution, a good instinct to hold onto, but often we allow that fear to control us more than we control it.

Freezing – Freezing is a common reaction of fear. The freezing reaction varies depending on the shock intensity, duration, and number of times shocked. All which alter with the experience one has with fear. Sensors produce fear (something scares you), this leads to conditioning of intense fear to stimuli present at the time of the shock, you make a mental note of the elements about the situation that caused you fear (smells, pictures, words etc…), the stimuli provoke intense fear as a conditioned response from that point on.

 

 

Break the “I-give-up” habit

Two Ways of Looking at Life/Learned Optimism : How to Change Your Mind and Your Life (Vintage)/by Martin E. Seligman, Ph.D.

Learned Optimism

is both profound and practical-and valuable for every phase of life.

These skills can help break up depression, boost your immune system, better develop your potential, and make you happier.

 

The optimists and the pessimists

: The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events will last a long time, will undermine everything they do. and are their own fault. The optimists, who are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world, think about misfortune in the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case. The optimists believe defeat is not their fault: Circumstances, bad luck, or other people brought it about. Such people are unfazed by defeat. Confronted by a bad situation, they perceive it as a challenge and try harder.

These two habits of thinking about causes have consequences. pessimists give up more easily and get depressed more often…optimists do much better in school and college, at work and on the playing field. Pessimism however is escapable. Pessimists can in fact learn to be optimists by learning a new set of cognitive skills. Make the choice to look at your setbacks in a new light.

 

What we learn today:

When an individual expects that nothing she does matters, she will become helpless and thus fail to initiate any action. Successful actions flow from a sense of self-efficacy. Individuals generate and monitor their own actions, reinforce themselves, and correct their unsuccessful actions. Individuals decide among goals and choose the most highly preferred.

Learning what I need to Learn

I have always been one who has wanted to control ever piece of my life. People, situations and thoughts have always been entities that I have tried to control mold and make into what I want them to be. This pattern however has made me reach a point of misery that is unbearable at times. I break down and realize…I CANT DO IT! So… I’m not going to anymore. Of course there is the inevitable human nature that gets in the way, but I think I will be able to have a better perspective on life if I choose to just let things happen without trying to control them. I have had many conversations with Paul (my uncle) about this subject. He has been so good to me with encouragement and support. He says that he has recently learned that we CANT do it alone…we CANT control…that is not our job…it is God’s. Isn’t that what Faith and Trust is all about?

I have met SO many people here who I know God placed in my life to teach me. A friend and I recently had a conversation about the nature of God. I have found that I am searching for WHO God is to me…but he reminded me that no matter how much I think, search or question…the NATURE of God doesn’t change. He is a forgiving, loving perfect God. When He was on this earth He was the ultimate example of who we should strive to be. Though I fail and fall over and over, forgiveness and understanding will be there waiting for me. How cool is that? J This idea leads me to begin thinking…what IS my nature like? Hmmm I don’t know yet… I’ll get back to you on that!

Hello world!

Through the last 4 months I have learned more than I think I had in the lifetime before I came to Africa. There are lessons to be learned every day, but I think that when You make yourself vulnerable, open your mind and create a world where you have no other option BUT to learn, there are things…unexplainable feelings that happen during that time that are invaluable and extremely motivating.

Through my time here not only have I gained a broader perspective on culture, tradition and life in another country, but I have learned what it means to respect in each culture I encounter, what it means to be a part of something, to feel included or rejected because of your race, beliefs or actions.

We as American’s are scared of a culture where men seem to dominate and control. A culture where in the name of a god we do not recognize these men make deadly rash actions that destroy life. Though there is no excuse for this…we lack the understanding of the culture as a whole…The intimate parts of Islam and the people, the innocent people, who are not SO different than us. We as Americans see one color, one belief and one outcome. Who are we to judge? just because we are protected and secure because we are one of the leading powers in this world does not give us the right to judge a culture of people who do not even KNOW much about this agressive group of people. It shocks me when I hear Americans who have settled in their way of thinking and who have adapted to the most narrow minded, naive way of thinking.

Where do we go from here? Is there any peace or resolution to this anger Americans feel towards the Arab people? Do we have to ship over Americans groups at a time for them to see how amazing, respectful, and loving this culture really is? Or is it too late and not even worth fighting back for the respect of a people who have more respect/more tradition/more love for family than any other culture I have seen?